A sister of a woman whose Nigerian lover duped her elder sister has said that she knew the affair was a love scam and she feared her sister may commit suicide following the emotional toll.
Jane Cole, 56, was in Gambia for holiday in 2005 when she fell in love with a 28 years old Nigerian, simply identified as Michael, a bartender.
It was said that Michael quickly made it clear he wanted more than just a one-night stand while she was on holiday in the country. He wanted a relationship. ‘I was completely sucked in,’ said Jane.
When Michael proposed, Jane decided to keep it a secret from her younger sister Tracy, knowing she would disapprove. Instead, she flew to The Gambia and married him, leaving Tracy to call her a fool.
Quickly, Jane began to see that she might have been right.
Michael said he wanted to move into Jane’s house with her in the UK, even though she had set her heart on a new life in The Gambia, as they had discussed. Nonetheless, she loved him, so she agreed.
But as soon as the couple arrived in the UK, Jane began to question Michael’s loyalty, especially when he began disappearing for long periods.
After calling a number that appeared frequently on his phone bill, she reached a woman with whom Michael had been having a relationship for six years.
‘When I confronted Michael he just admitted it and laughed. “People laugh then they see us together,” he said. I was devastated. My self-confidence sunk to an all-time low. He had drained me of everything, both financially and emotionally.’
‘I blamed myself for being foolish and falling for it. I’m supposed to be intelligent but I never had an inkling.
‘I believed everything he said. And if he had told me the woman was just a friend, I’d still have believed him.’
Jane’s younger sister, Tracy admits worrying that her sister might take her own life, because Michael had robbed her of everything.
But Jane is not alone when it comes to confidence tricksters scamming women in matters of the heart on holiday.
According to Office of National Statistics about 1,000 British people are victims of dating scams each year.